I had a happy coworker who taught me how to defend against this tendency in others to thwart the happiness around them. With people he trusted, he revealed his happiness, and flaunted the fact that his job was easy and stress free. But when anyone outside the inner circle approached, he started complaining like a pirate caught in a steel trap. He had lots of old-timey phrases like “up to my ass in alligators” and “stomping out fires” and “slogging through the swamp.” To hear him tell it, life was one long turd sandwich. Each misery led to the next. He would keep it up until the threat of teamwork passed.