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It’s easy to attack California for upholding Proposition 8 today. But how’s your state helping on that front? Unless you live in Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont, or Maine, your state’s just as guilty of keeping up this ridiculous bigotry.

Two weeks ago, the New York Assembly passed a same-sex marriage bill, but it won’t become law until (and unless) the state Senate passes it as well, and it’s not incredibly clear whether that will happen.

But opponents said they will continue to fight against the bill in the Senate. Sen. Ruben Diaz, D-Bronx, is organizing a rally of the New York Hispanic Clergy Organization outside Paterson’s Manhattan offices on Sunday to oppose same-sex marriage.

Other opponents said they think the national movement toward same-sex marriage won’t last, including in New York.

“I think the tide is about to turn on same-sex marriage across the country,” said the Rev. Jason McGuire, legislative director for New Yorkers for Constitutional Freedoms. “We are going to see that the redefinition of the family is stopped in its tracks.”

Let me be clear, for anyone who’s still in denial about this: Being gay is fine and gay marriage will soon be legal in most of the country. Maybe not within the next few years, but almost certainly within a decade.

Ask your grandparents what they thought and said about black people when they were teenagers. Or what their parents thought and said about women. Pay attention to how sad, offensive, and culturally backwards these things sound now. (Most still-living members of these generations now regret the bigotry common in their younger times and see how terrible it was.)

This will be the cultural acceptance movement of our generation. Having been on the wrong side of this won’t look very good in retrospect.